Play Time

I really enjoy "play time" in our house. So does P. Basically it is the time we have to really engage in D/s in a sexual way. It's also a time for us to reconnect, as life with 3 kids gets very hectic.

Sunday nights we have a weekly review where P and I can reflect on is previous week of service to me. It is a time when he can vent, ask questions, and make requests without worry. We both look forward to this very much. I knew before our review this week that he would be getting a reward, as his week was excellent and without incident.

Unfortunately, the review didn't happen. While I was busy helping my sister, P was getting sick. He came to me and asked if he could go to bed...he just couldn't wait anymore. I almost didn't know what to say. I was so disappointed to miss out on not only the review, but the play that would have followed. I could tell he was disappointed too. I sent him to bed and joined him a bit later.

Monday came and P was feeling much better...so much better in fact, that I jokingly asked him if he took anything "special" to help his cold! We went on with our day as usual and as it got to Monday night, I set forth on the review. He recapped his week and told me he felt he deserved a reward and nothing needed to be punished. I agreed and got some things out of our closet. I put on his collar and wrist cuffs. I know how much he enjoys wearing his collar, and I enjoy seeing him in it. The wrist cuffs are not out as often though. Little did he know, I was in the mood to tie him up! I don't get in that mood all that often, unfortunately, even though I know how much he enjoys it. Sometimes it's just too much work. But that night I really wanted him to be helpless. I also put his nipple clamps and a blindfold on him. Then I gave him one of my favorite toys to wear...it's a cock ring with a bullet and silicone (but very, very small) tongue attached for "her" pleasure.

Once he had the toy, cuffs, collar, and clamps on, I tied his wrists to the bed and put the blindfold on him. I took some time to tease him, playing with his nipples while he moaned. I love to hear him moan! I placed myself over him and turned the bullet on. Unfortunately the batteries were dying, but I got some pleasure out of it while they lasted! Finally I let him enter me, but made him keep his hips still so that I was in complete control of the thrusting. This was very difficult for him. I kept thrusting very slowly. Then I'd stop. Then faster. It was a lot of fun, but I finally decided that I needed to orgasm. I have a hard time in this position, though, so I untied him, took off the blindfold, and had him get on top of me.

Whenever he is in this position I love to watch his face. You can see the concentration as he tries so hard not to come. Since this was his first time back in me since he accidentally came a few weeks ago, I know he was trying extra hard. I asked him what he was thinking about. "Just trying to listen to the tv". I smiled and decided to make it harder for him. I started talking dirty to him about how I love to control him. I know it got a lot harder to control himself then!

I finally was ready but waited for him to ask to come. I always love it when he asks...especially if I plan to say no. :) But I told him yes, and the orgasm that followed was incredible. We were both shaking by the time we were done rolling in the waves of it.

Now I have to work on getting him desperately horny again. I didn't have time last night, but tonight I just might have to do...something. I don't want to give anything away, as he reads this blog. ;) But I'm sure that whatever I come up with will have him BEGGING to come again.

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Punishment

I don't often need to punish P. He serves me well and knows that I won't hesitate to do it, which means that I usually don't have to. However, due to his lack of self control the other night he needed it and I was happy to do it. I wasn't sure how I was going to go about it...I usually have a hard time deciding what will be punishment and not border the line of pleasurable for him. My usual punishment for coming without permission is for him to clean it up with his tongue...he likes the idea until he comes, and it's pleasurable for me. Unfortunately, that night I didn't have him do it because I was spotting and quite frankly, didn't think about it. So I spent some time going over blogs and forums to come up with ideas, all the while letting him know that I had not forgotten. I love to watch him squirm!

I ended up deciding that he would still have to consume, and that he would have a ruined orgasm first (after all, we are still needing to get those releases in for his negative sperm count from the vasectomy). At our Sunday night review I asked him if he wanted me to tell him what was going to happen or if he wanted to just go with it. He wanted to know. I told him I would be hands off, meaning that since he got his pleasure the other night this time he'd be doing it on his own(although it seems it was more of a ruined orgasm for him). For a minute he panicked as he thought I meant hands off in our FLR. I explained that he would get himself to the "point of no return" and ruin the orgasm on a plate so that he could consume it when he was done. I could tell he was not looking forward to it. I did allow him to wear his collar and nipple clamps to assure he'd get there, then I sat back and watched. He got himself there and came on the plate, then squeezed the tube to make sure there was nothing left inside. Then he set to work consuming it. Apparently it cooled very fast and was already cold and getting lumpy when be started licking the plate. I had a hard time watching! I don't think he found any part of it to be hot!

As far as punishments go, I liked this one. I didn't have to do much, which is always nice, but he still got the message and I'm sure he'll be being more careful in the future with his pace. I haven't decided yet when he'll be allowed back in me, as we do own several toys I quite enjoy. But his behavior as of late has been excellent, so it might be sooner rather than later.

Oops!

I have been reading another one of my beloved books...we call them "smut books" around here for fun. It just recently came out and I was impatiently waiting for it, so I went and got it yesterday and got started. It's just as hot as I was expecting! :) Anyway, when I read these books it helps my sex drive a ton. So, as I was reading today I couldn't help but get horny and want some sex. The kids were taken care of and P couldn't focus on work (since the other night I did not allow him to orgasm and put him in his belt after sex), and I am going out tonight, so I suggested we spend some time together. A quickie, as the oldest spawn in the house was upstairs playing on the computer and I didn't know how much time the baby spawn would allow us to have before she woke up.

I love a good quickie...the passion is really hot. I love the kissing and fondling as you rush to get undressed. It's good. All of it. P got going with his hand and brought me to orgasm number one. It was a good one, but not what I REALLY wanted. However, when he started thrusting into me with the cock, I got off very fast, and very hard. THAT was what I wanted! He slowed down for a minute to give me time to recover and then was off again as I headed quickly toward orgasm number 3. I was just about there when he said "shit". "Damn. Shit". I grinned because I knew what he was going to say. He accidentally came. He let himself keep going just barely too long and even though he stopped moving, he still came. Kind of like a ruined orgasm, but we'll see if the post-orgasm fall-out comes or not. Since he already came I had him finish me off so I could get that last one in. Good timing too, since both the older and youngest spawn had decided that we had enough "adult time" together at that point.

I had him pull out and asked him if he came by accident or intentionally. He said accident, and I believe him! He is very worried about the outcome of this...he keeps looking at me with those big eyes to see if he can tell what I'll do. To be honest, I haven't decided yet. But I'm sure going to have fun making him squirm!

10-15...he sure is lucky!

When a man has a vasectomy, his "pipes" are not automatically safe. There is a build-up of sperm that he must get out in order to be sterile. To do this, he must ejaculate 10-15 times or so. Then he will take two samples back to his doctor to be tested for sperm. If none is found, he is officially sterile.

What a lucky guy my P is! Since he had the procedure done and is no longer sore, we are working on cleaning him out. His doctor would like for him to get the 10-15 in about 2 months time. Since we were on a sort-of schedule of release every 3 weeks or so, he is getting WAY more than he's used to! I recently had surgery as well so it has only been the last few days that we have both been well enough to do anything sexual. The first was his birthday. I wasn't able to have sex with him because of some muscle pain from my surgery, but I did let him masturbate until he came. The second time was the other night, when I made him pick out a piece of paper: one said "sex", one said "masturbate yourself" and the other said "ruined orgasm". Of the folded papers he drew the masturbation one. He asked me what was on the others and I showed him. "I wish I had picked sex" he said. Me too. But alas, he went to work.

Unfortunately something wasn't working for him...I could tell even before he started. I let him get out his collar and nipple clamps, but even those didn't really help. I had him take a break in order to rub me to orgasm and then decided that I wanted sex. I made him a deal: you can have sex with me but you have to come out on my belly and clean it all up with your tongue. He agreed. He has been fantasizing lately about consuming his own come, but when the time comes, he suddenly no longer feels the urge. I knew this going in, as did he, but he agreed anyway. It was great, albeit short, sex. I was able to get an orgasm in just before he told me he needed to pull out to come. I gave him the go-ahead and he did. I could see the dread in his face as he watched it spurt out of him and I just smiled. I so love my position over him.

He is a man of his word, though, and he set to work cleaning up his mess with his tongue. As he lapped it up he made faces or noises of disgust here and there, and I took the opportunity to remind him of how many times I had swallowed for him. He finished up and I allowed him to go get a drink and clean up before we went to bed for the night.

For the rest of the opportunities he has to come I will probably use the same method. It's a lot of fun. Of course, I remind him that I always reserve the right to change my mind. If he hasn't behaved how I wanted him to, maybe the only options I'll include will be ruined orgasms. Maybe if I feel like it I'll even "load the cards" so to speak, and put a bunch of "sex" options in there. Who knows? That's the funnest part of it all.

Been a While

Sorry-it has been a while since I posted last. Not because nothing has happened, but because life just got in the way.

We have been getting back into play...I have been getting back into teasing. I really enjoy teasing P because it keeps him on edge and keeps me aroused as well. That and it's just plain fun! The other night I went out to the bar but had him texting me while I was gone. I love it when he texts me while I'm out because I know he's thinking about me. I also like it because he tends to send me thoughts he has on things he'd like to try. Those give me great ideas to use later. He often digs himself into a hole this way. On that night he mentioned that he'd been fantasizing about consuming his own cum again. We've tried this in the past and now use it mostly as a punishment for coming without permission. He does not generally enjoy it. But I guess because it has been so long since he has been made to do it, he forgot this little fact. I filed it away for later use. :)

On that night at the bar I texted him and told him that I would be calling him in a few minutes to listen to him edge himself over the phone. I did his so that I didn't have to actually tell him and have someone over-hear me. I went out and called him and when he answered I told him to get to it. It turned me on so much to listen to him describe it and moan through the phone. By the time I went back into the bar, I was soaking wet. I couldn't wait to get home at that point!

But alas I was riding with someone and had to wait. I had some drinks and enjoyed being out, all the while continuing to text P. When I finally got home I was exhausted. Even though he asked to taste my pussy I declined. I didn't think I'd be able to orgasm in my state.

The next night I was ready for play. After making out and getting turned on I told P to go down on me. It was so good! Then I wanted sex. He did an incredible job of keeping himself under control, and I lost count of the number of orgasms I had. Later I told him it's not about quantity, but quality, which he was doing well.

After an intense orgasm I told him to go into the closet and lock his hands together and to the shelf. I pulled out the box of our toys and closed and locked the closet. I wanted him to stew for a minute while I looked over our toys to see what I wanted to use for the night. I decided that since he had had such good behavior the week before, he deserved a reward. I pulled out the strap-on and paddle, as well as his butt plug. I also went into the bathroom to get a glove and some lube (it doesn't matter how long we've played, I still get queasy about the back door...but a glove makes it all good. :) ) I put on the glove and went to the closet. I opened it and went in, tracing my gloved finger in his crack. Since I only wear these gloves for anal play, he knows what they mean. He instantly got hard and excited.

I led him out of the closet and to the bed. I kept his hands locked together and had him lay on his back and put his hands over his head. I played with his ass, putting my finger inside and feeling his warmth. He squirmed around really enjoying the sensation. Then I pulled out his plug and lubed it up so could insert it into his tight asshole. As it slid into place he moaned and moved even more. He had mentioned a few days prior that he wanted to try my paddling him with his plug in, so I took advantage of that moment to try it. He really enjoyed it. When I felt he was ready I removed his plug and got into place with the strap-on. I slowly inserted it, getting very hot and wet with every inch as he moaned with pleasure. Once I got it all the way in I waited a moment because slowly sliding it out, then back in...and so on. I enjoy fucking his ass...I love the feeling of power it gives me, but I mostly love to watch him. He gets so lost in his pleasure. I watch his face and listen to him moan...it makes me wet almost instantly.

When I felt he'd had enough I slowly pulled out, letting him enjoy the sensation. Then I decided to give him a ruined orgasm. He has his vasectomy coming up (tomorrow, in fact) and I told him that since he has to have a certain number of ejaculations, he would have to pay for some of them. I reminded him that last time I had him in this position I did a ruined orgasm. He knew what was coming. I put his plug back in and had him tell me when he was close and I let go. Then got going again. When he told me he was close this time, I kept going just a few seconds more, then let go. It took a minute, but sure enough he started leaking fluid. I took a finger-full of it and let him have a taste to remind him just how much he doesn't like it. He agreed.

I pulled his plug out and told him to wash up and put everything away. When we got into bed together he told me that it felt different this time-it was like a ruined orgasm, but not quite. It still felt kind of good. I told him I was glad to know that...makes it easier for next time. Now I know that we can't use the plug for this in the future. I'm okay with the fact that it didn't quite work out. You win some, you lose some. :) I warned him that I expect his service and attitude to continue as it was. In the last few days he has proven himself. Although he is not feeling the familiar subby feelings, he is trying his best. And it is pretty good. I told him that some of his ejaculations after his procedure will probably be ruined ones. He can't have them all for free! :)

The Closet

When we moved into our house we were excited because we have a closet to use for play. Unfortunately, we were unable to use it right at first because it still had some things left from the previous owners and because of a leak. Well, the leak got fixed and the stuff got taken off, so we installed the things we need for play. (yay!)

P has had a great time at the hardware store, picking out eye bolts and such to secure himself in the closet. After he installed them I had him strip down to just his CBCurve and I locked his arms in. I was unable to do all the locks (both arms and legs) because the locks we had were too small. But we got him to a place where he couldn't move very much and I had fun teasing his body and lightly spanking him. I let him out and we went to b ed. P went and got bigger locks later that week. :)

Now that we have the bigger locks we were able to do some more play last night. Every Sunday we have our weekly review...I ask him how he thought he did in the previous week, if he thought he deserved punishment/reward, and if there are any special concerns going into the next week, or anything else he needs to talk to me about. From there, I administer the punishment or reward as I see fit. Last night got him a reward. His service and attitude in the past week has been much improved and I knew just the reward he was looking for. The other night he asked if he could lock himself up in the closet but I was not in the mood for play (I have had a nasty cold the last week) and told him no. But last night I ordered him into the closet...I wanted him stripped down and locked up in a way he could choose. I finished up things around the house and tended to the baby before I went in to admire his work.

When I went in to check on him I found him locked facing the shelves and spread eagle...except for his legs. Apparently he couldn't get those spread as well, so he locked them together. I unlocked them and helped him into the spread position. Once he was completely locked up to my satisfaction, I played with him. He had put on some nipple clamps which I twisted and tugged while he moaned. I get so wet hearing him moan! I scratched his back up and down and played with his ass...I love having him in such a vulnerable position. I wanted to let him stew a little, so I left the room and told him I'd be back. Then I closed and locked the door.

I tended to the baby again (two months old...she doesn't get the concept of bedtime yet!) and had a thought-I hadn't told him to put on nipple clamps, and he hadn't asked. Not okay. So I grabbed my paddle out of our toy box (eventually I plan to hang it in the closet with him as a mind fuck) and went back into the closet.

"It occured to me that I didn't tell you to put on the nipple clamps, did I?"

"No ma'am"

"And you didn't ask, did you?"

"No ma'am"

I laid out the punishment- I would warm him up with some light hits, then deliver two good ones as punishment for not asking and just wearing the clamps. And I did just that. I was very nice about it-this time. I warned him when the strikes would be coming. We have yet to really use this kind of punishment, and I wanted to make sure he was okay and I was okay. I've only recently discovered how much I enjoy doing things like that to him. But since it's all so new still, I like to take things slow and make sure we are both safe and happy with what is going on.

After I punished him I just couldn't resist his body and I played with him some more. When I felt good and satisfied I unlocked his arms and helped him down to the ground so that he could unlock his legs. I had him leave his collar on but clean up everything else. When he came out I had him kneel so I could remove the collar. I love taking it off of him in this way. I think it's a good transition.

Overall I think the night went well. We had a good "play" punishment (that's what we call it when it's not a serious infraction...one that might even go unpunished normally) and some good play. When we were ready for bed I had him bring me to orgasm with his fingers. I haven't been so wet in a long time! It was a good way to end the night, and I realized through this that I really am enjoying where we are going. Unfortunately for him, I find myself wanting to do things like hit him....not something I was even remotely interested in when we first started out! He keeps saying he doesn't know if he should be worried or not...I keep telling him he should. :)